Monday, May 10, 2010

tell him.

redone by: Colbie Caillat 
Let me be patient let me be kind
Make me unselfish without being blind
Though I may suffer I'll envy it not
And endure what comes
Cause he's all that I got and
Tell him...

Tell him I need him
Tell him I love him And it'll be alright
Tell him And it'll be alright And it'll be alright

Now I may have faith to make mountains fall
But if I lack love then I am nothin' at all
I can give away everything I possess
But left without love then I have no happiness
I know I'm imperfect not without sin
But now that I'm older all childish things end
And tell him...

Tell him I need him
Tell him I love him And it'll be alright
Tell him And it'll be alright And it'll be alright

I'll never be jealous
And I won't be too proud
Cause love is not boastful
Oh... and love is not loud
Tell him I need him
Tell him I love him
Everything's gonna be alright
Ya, ya, ya, ya... ya...

Now I may have wisdom and knowledge on Earth
But if I speak wrong then what is it worth?
See what we now know is nothing compared
To the love that was shown when our lives were spared
And tell him...

Tell him I need him
Tell him I love him And it'll be alright
Tell him And it'll be alright And it'll be alright
Tell him And it'll be alright And it'll be alright

Sunday, May 9, 2010

My Mom

there are so many things to say about my mom.  
things that when reading this she may not believe - but everyone around her would agree!

my mom is one of the most humble people I know.
she gives all that she has.
she has changed lives. 
she does it everyday.
she wakes up in the morning around 4am {+ or - a bit}
gets into work early - because she knows when the doors open - taking time for the families that walk through the doors and her staff become more important than her TO DO list.

I've watched this for many years and thought it was silly... 
but see now that it is not - it is her heart.

she has a heart for People. 
she will take any child into her lap to hug them and make them laugh or wipe their tears.
her face lights up when she gets a hug from a child at her center.
she is lovingly known as {Barbie}
kids that went to her daycare center as a child come back and work for her through high school {some stay to become teachers}

she runs a conference every year {which is one of the best conferences around}
for hundreds of early childhood educators
she LOVES sharing God's love with children.
she's known her whole life that she wanted to be a teacher. 

I remember my favorite times learning things in school were when I went home and my mom would tell me the HISTORY behind a story {I acted like I didn't care - but I was so intrigued} I still remember the feeling - she made it come ALIVE.  I felt like I was there {sometimes I made up stories... saying I was there... more details for another post}

my Mom touches people at the core of who they are.
building them up. seeing the BEST!  always believing for the best.
she always finds a way to let you KNOW that you are loved. 
she loves to give gifts {my parents' checkbook doesn't always love it} but my Dad knows how much she loves to give... so can't always say no.  he loves that about her {deep down} ;)
she puts verses and a little {something} in with each of her employees paychecks.
she TAKES TIME for people.
she TAKES TIME for me.

I love working with my mom.
she is an amazing photographer. 
 
I love the relationship we have. 
though there are days it can be all about business
I love taking time and just hanging out with my mom.

she is one of my best friends.
she is a person that I trust with my whole self.
she would do anything she can to take pain away when it is there.
she gives GREAT hugs.
she makes me laugh!
she calls to tell you she's 2 minutes away and the streets that she's turning on when she's on her way home.
she hates merging on the highway.
she loves her family {non "blood" relatives included}
she has awesome hand writing.
she's a GREAT cook {but doesn't like it or anything domestic}
she wants a pumpkin colored car.
she gave me her laugh.
she has got one of the most loving giving hearts of anyone I know.

Mom. 
not only today on {Mothers' Day} but everyday I hope you know how loved you are and how much you mean to us.  You are an amazing woman that I look up to and so proud you are ours!

Happy Mothers' Day!!
Love you

Thursday, May 6, 2010

making a list

I got an invite this morning. {for a fiesta date night}
it made my day.  no maybe week. 

one of the most precious things to me is a PLAN or a surprise. 
it shows me that they care because there is thought behind it. 

i DON'T LIKE to plan.  
i may seem like a planner to some. 
if no one else plans something i will. 
i don't like making decisions 
and at EVERY chance I'll get - 
I'll NOT CHOOSE.

This got me thinking about relationships. 

{disclaimer}
I am NO EXPERT in relationship and will never claim to be. 
I have had more failed relationships than successful ones.

BUT I am WORKING ON knowing myself and communicating to have a successful relationship and want to share things that I learn along the way
with that out of the way.
 
I had a thought this morning.  
sparked by a conversation last night. 
Men and Women DON'T KNOW EACH OTHER. 
if we're honest with ourselves - we have NO CLUE when it comes to the opposite sex. 

SO...

why not make a list?

a list of the things you LOVE. the things that make your heart melt.
{for men} a list of things that make you comfortable and make your heart race.

Take 5 or ten minutes and use it as a cheat sheet. 
Let each other know that this is what it is... make it laughable and fun.

{also}
for my married friends.
don't forget to DATE your spouse.

{I'm dating right now - Not racing for the next stage because I want to LIVE where we're at loving this time together. Then when we are in the next stage of life it will be a sweet memory and I'll be reminded of why we chose each other because we LIVED it.} I think this is true in all stages of life.  LOVE where you're at - because you'll never be there again!

remember WHY you wanted to spend the rest of your lives with each other.  
even if your life doesn't look how you thought it would {it never does}
cherish your dating memories and do the same things now that you did then.

have {COUCH TIME} 
where you are shoulder to shoulder or face to face.  
TV OFF
talking. holding hands or cuddling.
TALK.  seriously. put the kids to bed early and ENJOY each other.

Coming from a single girl - learning from my Married Friends.  
I hope to be a mirror of encouragement to remember what got you here...

SO... have fun and make a list

with all my love.S





a bit hurt

but mostly because of MY expectation.
how much of the pain in our life is because of our expectations?

Many times we are hurt because we want people to be like us. 
{we may not say that but if we truly look to the core I believe it's true}
We want the people close to love like us. to give like us. to feel like us. to live like us.

But - no one else is like us. 
We have similarities and things that tie us together as friends, family, and SOs.
There is not ONE PERSON exactly like me. 
There is not ONE PERSON exactly like you.  

It is so elementary - but at the age of 28 I'm just figuring out that most of MY hurt feelings come because I expect someone to KNOW me and give how I want them to give.  

Knowing that, I'll let go of my expectations.  

Not lower them - let go of them.  

The things that are important to me - will continue to be important to me - but expecting others to place the same value on them- I'll make the choice to give that up.  

instead I'll SEE people in my life for who THEY are and ask what is important to them.

It's amazing what can be learned on the other side of hurt feelings in friendship.

the blogs are flowing again...

my brain shuts down when I work too much. 
and don't spend quality time with the people I love. 
that's where most of my blogs come from. 
I've got 3 swiming around in my head right now...

now if I can just remember them all.

COMING SOON.

Monday, May 3, 2010

let love and faithfulness never leave you

I am a dramatic person.

I tend to use words like {always. never. only} etc. 
Reading this today struck me.

let Love and Faithfulness NEVER leave you {prov.3:3}

What does it mean to have them NEVER leave you?
In ALL that I do - am I showing love?  Am I being faithful?
In my words.  my thoughts.  my actions.

It is easy for me to love.  I LOVE love.  I see it in most things. 
It kind of {oozes} out of me.
But to NEVER let it leave me.

And faithfulness.
Faithfulness is something that is harder for me to do naturally. 
Though I would say I am a very Faithful person.
To never let it leave me is a different story.

I find I'm faithful to the things that I want to be. 
It's the things that are hard... that I struggle with
{as I write this I think "duh" of course it's the things that are hard that I struggle with}

but I think, that, may be the {a} point of NEVER letting it leave you. 
When there are things in me that I don't WANT to be faithful to.
Commitments that I make to myself - things that I can just let slide.

That is where I will know what I'm made of. 
Do I keep those commitments? 
Am I faithful and loving in the little things?

I will strive to be.